So you’ve been dumped and you want to know how to make your ex miss you. I don’t blame you. Your ex has to miss you in their life to want to come back to you or else, why would they? What would be the point?
Most people who have been broken up with live in conflicting schools of thought:
On one hand, they want to make their ex miss them, but the typical actions of someone who has been dumped overwhelm their ex with their presence, preventing that person from ever having the opportunity to miss them.
The dumped person will constantly call, text, beg, plead, cry, show up at their ex’s home or work place and all of it only serves to prevent your ex from missing you. It has the exact opposite effect in a strong way.
Why does this matter?
So you have come here wanting to know how to make your ex miss you and the answer is one that you probably won’t like. You have to disappear.
That means that your ex does not see you. You are no longer part of this person’s life (not forever, but temporarily). You should implement the tried-and-true no contact rule, meaning that you do not call, text, message on social media, like or respond to their posts on social media, and you don’t make posts on social media acknowledging your ex or the breakup in any way (no social pouting).
I hope that’s clear enough because you’d be surprised how people will use their desire for contact with their ex as an excuse to break the no contact rule as though they found a loophole. If you do that, you’re only hurting your chances of getting back with your ex! You might even be destroying your chances.
How To Make Your Ex Miss You
When you back away from your ex and disappear from their life, you give them the opportunity to miss you because you are not there.
They have to notice and they have to experience the consequences of their decision to break up with you.
You must stop acting like this person’s lover completely. No gifts. No physical contact. That is how to make your ex miss you.
Here’s the deal:
If you see them in public, I’m not suggesting you ignore them because that would look rude and immature. It would actually be showing them that you are not in a good place (and you want them to at least believe that you are in a good place).
So if you see them out somewhere and come face to face with them, smile, and say something like, “Hey, good to see you. I hope you’re doing well. I’ve got to run but take care.” If you haven’t seen them in a while maybe add, “I’ve got to run but let’s catch up sometime.” That’s it. Then casually walk away. (Does he miss me during no contact?)
If you are in class with your ex, be smart in avoiding the potential for face to face contact. Sit far away from them if possible. Wait until they leave the room for you to leave to ensure you don’t get near them.
Your ex needs to feel what it’s like to be broken up with you in order for them to decide they don’t want the breakup after all and want to come back to you. If you are still there, they are getting to be on both sides of the fence in a way or at least it will feel like that to your ex.
You want the break up to be difficult for them and if they cared about you at all and if you two had been together for a decent amount of time – say at least 2 months – then it will be difficult for them if you are no longer there. But so many people who want to get their ex back overwhelm their ex with their presence and eventually the ex becomes so annoyed that they don’t just NOT miss you but it takes them much longer to develop feelings of missing you. Rather than want you back, even more than before, they want to be away from you. It will take longer for them to miss you if those feelings are even still possible anymore.
Relax, most likely those feelings of missing you are still possible, but in order to have the best chance of getting your ex back, you have got to back away completely immediately. That is how to make your ex miss you.
I encourage you to read one or both of the following articles to help you more in your situation:
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If you want to know how to get your ex to want you back, I’ve spelled it out. Many people contact me and say, “I want to know how to make my ex miss me.” You need to be focused and determined in the approach provided in this article. Don’t allow yourself to back down or give into emotions and desperation. It simply won’t work.
Stay calm and follow the guidance of this article to have the best chance of getting your ex back for the long term. The pattern of what works is clear and that is what I’ve shared with you to help you get your ex back. To get my help with your specific situation and a tailored map to getting your ex back, click here to schedule a coaching call with me.