Signs Your Ex Will Come Back Eventually After A Breakup

Signs my ex will come back eventually

As I talk about signs that your ex will come back to you eventually after a breakup, I do so because I know that it’s human nature to look for such signs.

If you want your ex to come back, you are going to be trying to determine how likely such an event is.

Trust me, I get it.

So here are some signs that your ex will likely come back eventually.

Note: In the video above I also give several “rapid fire” signs that I share without much explanation, so if these five aren’t enough, watch the video above to get more.

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  1. Your Ex Re-establishes Contact
  2. Your Ex Speaks of Fond Memories That You Two Share
  3. Your Ex Shows Jealousy
  4. They Ask About Your Future Plans and Expectations
  5. You Bump Into Your Ex A Little Too Often To Be Coincidence

I highly recommend you watch the video above as I explain each of these signs in more detail and as I list several “rapid fire,” signs near the end.

Sign 1: Your Ex Re-Establishes Contact

This sign is a crucial component in the journey that your ex takes to eventually come back to you.

It’s important, not just because it shows you where your ex’s heart is and that he/she has gotten to the place where they now see your place in their life clearly, but also because it shows your ex where they are.

It’s one thing for someone else to see it within us, but it’s far more profound for us to see it inside of ourselves.

It’s a form of enlightenment for your ex because they witness themselves being at a point to where they seek you.

Your ex realizes that they reached a point to where they felt they must reach out to you.

This is extremely important and it should tell you that your ex is at least reflecting and reconsidering the breakup to some degree.

Even if your ex contacts you about a small or seemingly trivial matter, it’s still an important sign that he/she takes the step of contacting you.

Sign 2: Your Ex Speaks of Fond Memories That The Two of You Share

This sign is powerful and shows that your ex has been doing some thinking and soul searching.

This soul searching has led them to find you and to memories of the two of you together that are meaningful to your ex.

What is behind this is your ex missing intimacy with you.

By intimacy, I mean words, experiences, and moments where the two of you were naked in front of each other.

Not just naked physically (though that is certainly a type and a contributor to intimacy), but emotionally and intellectually.

You didn’t hide. The other person saw into you (in to me see).

Your ex remembers times when the two of you felt your love for each other connect, harmonize, and deepen.

This shows that all is certainly not lost and that your ex is likely to eventually come back to you.

Sign 3: Your Ex Shows Jealousy

When your ex shows jealousy, it’s one of the first signs of how your ex will handle losing you.

Remember, as I mention in a lot of my videos, your ex feels loss at a later time than you do.

When your ex breaks up with you, they feel control.

Your ex feels that they could get you back if they wanted you back since they were the one to dismiss you.

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There is a gut-level assumption that you will eternally be in the position of wanting the relationship.

In that way, your ex doesn’t experience a real breakup until they feel that you have been lost or that there is a true risk of losing you.

Jealousy shows that your ex isn’t happy with losing you to someone else.

It shows that the breakup was a concept that seemed like what they wanted until they actually experienced it and its consequences.

If your ex is showing jealously, it’s a good sign that your ex will come back to you at some point.

It doesn’t mean that you should call up your ex and tell them that you see their jealousy and figure that it’s time for the two of you to get back together.

You should still let your ex come to you at their own pace or else you risk pushing them away again.

But it is certainly a good sign that reuniting with your ex is not just a possibility but a probability.

Sign 4: They Ask About Your Future Plans and Expectations

This is another indicator that your ex is missing you and missing intimacy with you.

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Your ex is feeling that they aren’t a part of your life anymore and in some ways are wanting to know what they are missing and if they are still a part of it in a way.

Asking about your plans for the future can also be a covert, secretive way of trying to determine if you are going to stay in the same area and if the future that you plan would be conducive to the two of you getting back together.

What’s more, it’s your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend seeking to “see into you,” which demonstrates that desire for intimacy – that I often mention – in a big way.

If your ex is asking about your future, it’s a very good sign that your ex will come back eventually. This particular sign often says they are pretending to be over you.

Sign 5: You Bump Into Your Ex A Little Too Often To Be Coincidence

If your ex bumps into you at a perfect time to see you and, perhaps, talk to you, that's a good sign they are coming back eventually.

Bumping into someone isn’t out of the ordinary or necessarily something to be suspicious about, but if it is your ex and it happens at places where your ex knows you will be at certain times, it might be more than coincidence.

It might just be a sign that your ex is wanting to come back.

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Though this isn’t something that you should mention to your ex or call them out on, it is something that could bring you encouragement if you want to reunite with them.

Once might be a fluke.

Twice is more difficult to explain as mere chance or coincidence.

It’s quite possible that your ex wants to see you (as I discuss in the video above) and wants to get an idea of how receptive you might be or to see if you are angry at them.

When and if you see your ex, be polite and friendly, but casual.

Don’t bring up the relationship unless your ex does and be brief as much as it is up to you.

You could say something like, “It’s good to see you, but I need to get going.”

Remember, I mention several bonus signs in the video above that can give you a better idea, but if you are seeing signs that your ex is going to come back, take encouragement from that but continue to let your ex come to you and it’s usually best to avoid initiating contact with him/her.

Rapid-Fire Signs of an Eventual Reconciliation

Additional clear indicators include your ex wanting to remain friends, sending greetings on special occasions, actively following you on social media, staying single, emotional drunk texts, and comments from their friends or family about their unhappiness post-breakup.

The Role of the No-Contact Rule: The no-contact rule plays a critical role in this emotional dance.

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It creates a space for both parties to reflect and miss each other and this is far more important than many hurting individuals understand through their pain.

This absence is often the catalyst for an ex to reconsider their decision.

However, I must warn you again a quick reconciliation.

A genuine reconnection requires time and an understanding that both parties have evolved from the experience.

Taking things one day at a time, with your ex feeling that they are earning you back and are proving themselves to you again is extremely important.

A lot of times it is natural for your ex to want some form of “punishment.”

Obviously I’m not talking about something abusive or as though your ex was a child and you the parent.

What I’m referring to is simply that your ex expects you to show some reservation about them and for you to not simply jump back in as a devoted parther.

Without some negative consequences and a time for your ex to prove themselves to you, the relationship can feel forced, fake, and awkward.

This can cause the infamous “fading out,” where your ex leaves again because they just don’t feel the same.

This is often because it seemed as though they were just “allowed” to jump back into the relationship with no consequences.

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I see it all the time and I hope to spare you from it, but you have to go against your instincts of welcoming your ex back with open arms.

When they eventually come back, you should show signs of caution and of considering if you want them back.

This might upset them and that’s okay.

That doesn’t mean that the two of you won’t get back together and your “open but reserved” response to them coming back will likely help prevent another beakup in the near future.

Conclusion: Reading the signs of a possible return from an ex requires a balanced approach.

While these indicators can provide hope, it’s crucial to maintain a sense of self and not rush into a reunion.

Understanding these signs of your ex coming back eventually helps in navigating the complex emotions following a breakup, offering a beacon of hope and direction.

I highly recommend my Emergency Breakup Kit to give you the best chance possible of getting your ex back.

No matter what, I wish you the very best.

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Coach Lee, Master of Marriage & Family Counseling, helps people save relationships. He developed the Emergency Breakup Kit, a powerful guide to winning back an ex. Get information on the Kit by Clicking Here! If your MARRIAGE is struggling, get his free mini-course on saving a marriage.

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